Christmas is often a time that magnifies feelings of loss and grief, and it can be difficult to decide how best to make space for those feelings when there are so many demands on your time and so many things that need doing.
We often work with our clients, all through the year, to find ways of memorialising and taking time to remember those who have died and losses we have experienced. It is important to acknowledge grief and loss amongst the celebrations, and to accept that those who have died are not completely gone, because their presence is usually felt, often by their absence.
There are many ways that you can remember (and this list is certainly not exhaustive), you could…
- Light a candle in their memory
- Write a letter to the person who you are remembering, which you could keep, or burn on the fire
- Choose a decoration that reminds you of them to bring out every year
- Create a memory box and put things in it that remind you of your person, perfume, jewellery, an ornament, tickets to events you went to together, anything you like
- Go for a walk in a place that your person loved
- Carry on a tradition that your person was involved in
- Have a star named for your person
- Plant a tree or rose or other plant in their memory
- Make a patchwork quilt or cushion cover from their clothes
- Have a teddy bear made from their clothes
- Wear an item of their clothing or jewellery
- Put photos of your person in a prominent position
- Make time to watch old family videos
- Donate to a charity in your loved ones name
- Have a moment of silence before your Christmas meal
- Add an extra plate to the dinner table in their memory
One of the things we do here at the Dove Service with clients is offer them the opportunity to create a memory bauble. You can buy photo baubles, white ceramic baubles and clear craft baubles off the internet. You can paint the ceramic bauble in any way that reminds you of your person. The clear craft baubles can act as a little memory box for you to fill with things that remind you of your person.
We would love to see your Christmas memories, so please do take pictures of anything that you create and share them on our Facebook page with a sentence about your loved one/pet or loss.