Life is challenging with its ups and downs and it can be devastating to be diagnosed with an illness which is life changing. Receiving a diagnosis can alter your everyday life, it can cause anxiety for the future and fears for the unknown which lies ahead for the short or longer time you have left.
Having to cope with an ongoing illness or a degenerative condition can raise issues which can seem insurmountable and very frightening. These may include the following:
Financial: You may have to quit your job or reduce hours which may put intolerable strain on the family. There may be worries about the mortgage or rent and keeping a roof over your head and enough money for groceries.
Physical: You may feel less mobile and not able to engage in as much activity as you used to. You may begin to feel like a burden to those around you and worry about what will happen to your care in the future.
Emotional: You may grieve for the loss of the person you used to be and all the activities you used to be able to do but are no longer able to engage in. This feeling of loss can be intense and you may feel anger and sadness.
Loneliness: It may feel that you are very much on your own with your feelings, even though there are others supporting you. This is a unique experience for you and no-one can really know or understand what you are going through. This can make you feel very lonely indeed and isolated.
Constrained: Having to live with an ongoing illness can make your world shrink. You may have to give up things you once enjoyed with relish. You may not be able to go out with friends as much and have to stay home more, you may have to learn to do less and this can feel like you are trapped in a world you did not want or ask for.
Pain: High levels of pain and ongoing, continuous pain can be very difficult to cope with. It can affect mood and lead to feelings of despair and, at the worst, suicidal ideation. It should never be underestimated just what a devastating effect pain can have on a person. Trying to get pain under control can be a lengthy, time consuming and demoralising situation which can cause much suffering and psychological distress.
Sometimes, for all of us, it can be helpful to talk to someone other than our family and friends so that we can truly express our feelings without the fear of upsetting those we love. Here at the Dove Service you will be able to talk through all your thoughts and feelings with a counsellor in complete confidence.
For more information, contact us on 01782 683155